One day in February 1993, I received a letter from my sister, SN Giharti residing in Cirebon. She followed her husband who works in the office of Perum Pegadaian, a Pawning Department, in the city of Cirebon. He gave me a paper that said a man's name and office address. He named Sutejo, BA. and the address of his office, at Pontianak's District, Streets H.O.S Cokroaminoto No. 264, West Kalimantan. He told me that I sent a letter to the man's to get an acquaintance. However, I feel inferior, and pessimistic as I am not a working woman who can make money. Though the men in time, when I was a girl once until today, tend to prefer a woman who has a money income.
One day, in the next month of March, I received a letter from SN Giharti again, she told me if one day, I received a letter from Mr. Sutejo, I didn't need to give long-winded answers. But, I must admit that I have sent a letter to the man's to being acquaintance with him. She said that he had sent a letter along with photos of my acquaintance to you Sutejo, without my knowledge. Until one day, I received a letter from Mr. Sutejo, then I give my letter and answer honestly say that it was not me who sent acquaintances's letters.
Finally, we corresponded until on Sunday, August 22, 1993, he came to my parents' house at around 3:00 PM. At that time, I was sweeping the yard beside the house. When I first saw him, my heart was happy. Before he entered the house, he greeted, "Assalamu'alaikum." And I replied, "Wa'alaikumsalam." He sat in the living room, waiting for me to shower and dress up. Finished up, I saw him and I sat on his right. Then he said, directly, "What about if my parents also came here to apply for our propose....?" Spontaneous I nodded and said yes.
In the evening, he spent the night at my house. The next morning, he was invited me to go to the house of his parents in Purworedjo, to be introduced to his family. I stayed there overnight. The next morning, he take me went home. He also went back to the house in Purworedjo. On the following evening, his parents came to my parent's house to propose to me. For three days, he was in my parents' house. On Saturday afternoon, he went to Jakarta, and the week she stayed at her brother, Sunarto. The next day, he went to Mempawah, to get back to work. For three months, we split up. Until finally we got married on Saturday Wage, dated November 6th, 1993.
When our family held a wedding celebration, most people around us do not want to help with their energy, though it will be paid with money. Fortunately, there are still brothers, relatives, and friends who want to help us, too Marniti. I and Marniti invitation card spread to almost all of my friends who joined the Youth organization. Only a small portion of my friends for help. Many people around who feel envy, heard the news of my wedding, because I get a husband who has a position as District's Manager at the Perum Pegadaian. So since then, the degree and dignity of my family were raised.
After I got married for one week, then on Friday afternoon my husband and I went to Jakarta City, and we're arrived in Jakarta City in the morning, we spent the night at the house of my husband's elder brother. On the next day in the weekend at 14 November 1993, we went to Mempawah Town, in the province of West Kalimantan.
At the beginning of the our weddings period, in a few months I felt happy, even though my husband is not in the romantic habits. I was married to him not for love, but because I need to stay live with him because my parents live in poverty. In addition to that, I have almost reached in the age of 30 years.
When our wedding had passed a few months, we have not yet thought of getting a child. But eventually I was worried too much when our marriage has been running for more than 6 months. At first my husband and I loved to entertain, so I remain optimistic to be able to get a child. But finally he getting bored by himself and every went home to our home-office is always looked with sullen look on my face.
His previous habit is always to help wash our clothes, when I was busy cooking to provide breakfast. He is washing with soap and rinsing my clothes 2 times. Eventually he becomes lazy if he had to wash my pants are made from thick like jeans. He's always pouting face. He does not like to wash clothes made from thick leathers, heavy cause. Though I never asked him to help me.
Habits like he previously was a timely return home for lunch at 12:30 pm. I have always faithfully waiting for him to came home and eat together. But in the end he likes to made me upset, and angry. When I faithfully waited for him for lunch until about 3:00 pm, he didn't came home, for just the reason he was busy. But he never called me and told me that I was eating beforehand.
Another habit is that he likes to watch TV until late at night, almost every night he always fell asleep in front of the TV with the TV lights circumstances, without first turning off the TV in the middle of the night if I did not wake up, then the TV will remain lit until morning. Almost every night, I always remind him to turn off the TV before she slept. But the bad habit of constantly repeated, made me think and feel that he intentionally committed the act to made me getting upset, so I sometimes slept in separate rooms.
His attitude isn't romantic and rarely talk made me not like him and I cry and sometimes I even went home to my parents house, I even told my husband to marry again if he wants to have children soon. But when I say that sentences, he said, "Did you stop loving me anymore ... " When he said that, I am just getting speechless.
In a period of more than one year I wait for my pregnancy, I got menstruation, my hope that I wouldn't getting menstruation anymore, as a sign that I getting pregnant, but when the menstruations period came I always feel disappointed and I become stressed. I 've come to an obstetrician named Dr. Totong Swargono. The doctor said that he would take my ovum by inserting her finger into my pussy. But I am too shy and I don't want to do it.
I feel very lonely for being in home alone. My husband got home from work around 4 pm. And after maghrib (evening) time around 6:30 pm, he went to the office to work overtime. Home around 9-10 nights. I was in home alone, I feel Takur. So I had like to follow my husband to the office. I love to helping my husband's job.
The nature of my husband's habit was grumpy, but not to be rude that hurt me with his hands. When he making a mistake in his work, and I made a joke by saying, "fool", he spontaneously said, "Talk with an ethics! I do not like it..." But, indeed, he did not keep his words. It is easy to give advice to others, but in himself/herself is not necessarily able to do what is said by others.
In the office sometimes my husband goes into the barn and opened the vault where the gold storage. Sometimes I went in and look at the various models of gold jewelry. If I am interested in the model, then I asked my husband to buy gold jewelry from the same model I wanted.
One day, when I was with my husband in the office, and when he was writting in his work, he said that there are some fake gold jewelry pawned by customers. Then I said, "I want to see it, dear..." Spontaneous he replied in a tone of voice rather yell, "Why do you loving that jewelry too much.." The words he made me getting very embarrassed and hurt. If it's true that I just too much loving jewelry, I certainly don't want to marry him. Because when he proposed a marriage to me, he did not own property. He only had a saving just Rp.4 million. These words are the first time that he hurt my feelings.
After I got married for one week, then on Friday afternoon my husband and I went to Jakarta City, and we're arrived in Jakarta City in the morning, we spent the night at the house of my husband's elder brother. On the next day in the weekend at 14 November 1993, we went to Mempawah Town, in the province of West Kalimantan.
At the beginning of the our weddings period, in a few months I felt happy, even though my husband is not in the romantic habits. I was married to him not for love, but because I need to stay live with him because my parents live in poverty. In addition to that, I have almost reached in the age of 30 years.
When our wedding had passed a few months, we have not yet thought of getting a child. But eventually I was worried too much when our marriage has been running for more than 6 months. At first my husband and I loved to entertain, so I remain optimistic to be able to get a child. But finally he getting bored by himself and every went home to our home-office is always looked with sullen look on my face.
His previous habit is always to help wash our clothes, when I was busy cooking to provide breakfast. He is washing with soap and rinsing my clothes 2 times. Eventually he becomes lazy if he had to wash my pants are made from thick like jeans. He's always pouting face. He does not like to wash clothes made from thick leathers, heavy cause. Though I never asked him to help me.
Habits like he previously was a timely return home for lunch at 12:30 pm. I have always faithfully waiting for him to came home and eat together. But in the end he likes to made me upset, and angry. When I faithfully waited for him for lunch until about 3:00 pm, he didn't came home, for just the reason he was busy. But he never called me and told me that I was eating beforehand.
Another habit is that he likes to watch TV until late at night, almost every night he always fell asleep in front of the TV with the TV lights circumstances, without first turning off the TV in the middle of the night if I did not wake up, then the TV will remain lit until morning. Almost every night, I always remind him to turn off the TV before she slept. But the bad habit of constantly repeated, made me think and feel that he intentionally committed the act to made me getting upset, so I sometimes slept in separate rooms.
His attitude isn't romantic and rarely talk made me not like him and I cry and sometimes I even went home to my parents house, I even told my husband to marry again if he wants to have children soon. But when I say that sentences, he said, "Did you stop loving me anymore ... " When he said that, I am just getting speechless.
In a period of more than one year I wait for my pregnancy, I got menstruation, my hope that I wouldn't getting menstruation anymore, as a sign that I getting pregnant, but when the menstruations period came I always feel disappointed and I become stressed. I 've come to an obstetrician named Dr. Totong Swargono. The doctor said that he would take my ovum by inserting her finger into my pussy. But I am too shy and I don't want to do it.
I feel very lonely for being in home alone. My husband got home from work around 4 pm. And after maghrib (evening) time around 6:30 pm, he went to the office to work overtime. Home around 9-10 nights. I was in home alone, I feel Takur. So I had like to follow my husband to the office. I love to helping my husband's job.
The nature of my husband's habit was grumpy, but not to be rude that hurt me with his hands. When he making a mistake in his work, and I made a joke by saying, "fool", he spontaneously said, "Talk with an ethics! I do not like it..." But, indeed, he did not keep his words. It is easy to give advice to others, but in himself/herself is not necessarily able to do what is said by others.
In the office sometimes my husband goes into the barn and opened the vault where the gold storage. Sometimes I went in and look at the various models of gold jewelry. If I am interested in the model, then I asked my husband to buy gold jewelry from the same model I wanted.
One day, when I was with my husband in the office, and when he was writting in his work, he said that there are some fake gold jewelry pawned by customers. Then I said, "I want to see it, dear..." Spontaneous he replied in a tone of voice rather yell, "Why do you loving that jewelry too much.." The words he made me getting very embarrassed and hurt. If it's true that I just too much loving jewelry, I certainly don't want to marry him. Because when he proposed a marriage to me, he did not own property. He only had a saving just Rp.4 million. These words are the first time that he hurt my feelings.
TO BE CONTINUED,,, (----->>Please Tell to all of your friends,, and share nor forward My Story, Thanks...<<-----)
